Need to talk?

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

Hi, my situation is dumb. Really really dumb, but I do need help. Look, in my school, you have to do an exchange program.. I mean, yo go to another country, to learn a lenguage.. In my school, you have to go to Germany, you have the opportunity to go 6 months, 7.5 months or 12 months (a year). If you go 6 or 12 months you go in January in this case, January 2013... but if you go 7.5 months you have to go to Germany in november this year... The problem is

I thought this had been answered…. Apparently not! I apologize on behalf of everyone. :) 

Well personally, I think this is such a unique opportunity, you definitely should take advantage of it. Yes, it’ll suck not being in the same grad class as your friends, but I can guarantee you’ll make new ones. :) You can’t pass something like this up; you’ll probably end up regretting it if you don’t do it. If you really wanna do the full year, go for it. I think you’ll find 6 months is a sufficient amount of time away though. You’ll probably miss your family too much if you’re away for an entire year.

(Sorry I wasn’t much help, but I didn’t really think I’d be answering this question!)

Posted 2 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

I need to find a counselor, and I don't really know how. I've been dealing with my parents' divorce and the impact it's had on my sister very quietly for 6 years now, and am only now realizing the anger issues it's created. My girlfriend and I are going on break until I have an appointment with a therapist. How do you find somebody you can trust?

Speaking to your Doctor will allow them to refer you to a therapist. If you’re in your teens or younger, there’s also loads of free online services available.
As for finding somebody to trust, well there’s no right or wrong way to do that, trusts something you build over time, only you know who you can trust.
Good luck :)
Sam

Posted 3 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

I got this blog from Confessions About Eating Disorders and began to read some of it and just completely broke down. The amount of effort, time and sincerity you put into EVERY reply is rare and valueable. I don't know what compelled y'all do this blog, but thank you. <3

Thankyou so much! You’re very welcome :) <3

Posted 8 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

My friend has been depressed for a long time I think and she tells me, she has recently started cutting and I don't know what to do, im the only one that knows, we recently got in a massive fight and last night she told me she wants to kill herself because of me, I know this is serious but I have no idea what to do, its not my business to tell someone and she told me she would never talk to me again if I do, as well I had a eating disorder earlier this year and she didn't tell anyone. HELP

Even though it may seem hard, the best thing to do is to tell someone. This is a very heavy burden to carry by yourself. I’ve had to go through this very same thing. At the beginning of the year I called the cops when my friend was doing the exact same thing, and even though it was hard, I know now that she is getting the help she needs. I know she says she won’t talk to you, but you just have to think that it is for the better. If her not talking to you is holding you back, you just have to remember that in the end, her getting better and being happy is more important, and that decision is very noble. When she’s older I promise she’ll look back and realize how good of a friend you are. You can’t wait for things to get out of control. If losing your friendship is what it takes, then take that chance, because the only other options are far worse and the consequences are much greater.

-Emma

Posted 8 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

..I haven't cut in a week today.. even though my parents thought I stopped about a month ago. I'm still depressed as hell. More than anything, and I hate it. I hate it so much. People tease me for it, I'm a different person.. I never want to be around people, so my friends have drifted away. I'm lonely and I can't even stand the thought of getting out of bed... but everyday, I fight the urge not to cut. I don't know what to do anymore :( Sorry this is a long message, but I'm lost. Please help me

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this, especially with no one supportive at your side. Your story sounds remarkably similar to mine. I remember the first year of highschool feeling alone and far away from everyone else, so depressed I could hardly function. Please know you are NOT alone in this. Websites like twloha.com provide support for people who are hurting. There is also a phone number you can text if you feel the urge to cut, and they will help you, as well as hotlines you can call and chatrooms you can join for support and pages that will tell you how to properly care for self-injurous wounds. (All of these resources can be found here, on my page). But above all, I believe you should ask your parents to get you a therapist - a proper therapist. This will give you someone to talk to and help you through everything. And don’t be discouraged if your first therapist is rubbish - mine was, and it took three tries to get a good one - but she’s perfect and a huge part of my recovery. Although I believe the mental hospital worked for me, I only recommend that for people who already have a therapist and are suicidal, which I don’t believe you are. I believe you are a soul in remarkable pain. And feel free to message me if you ever need to, because I understand how hard it must be. I will pray for you <3

Mary Kate

Posted 9 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

"I do believe you love someone you have never met. You can such strong emotions whether or not you see them face to face or not. You feel what you feel, <3"

who said this, so I can read the story on you, thanks<3

Mine isn’t up there, sorry!

Posted 9 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

a question for anyone to answer; can you truely love someone you've never met?

I do believe you love someone you have never met. You can such strong emotions whether or not you see them face to face or not. You feel what you feel, <3

Posted 9 months ago — 1 note

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

Hey,
I don't really know what to do. I'm kind of in love with someone who will probably never feel the same way about me. He's 7 years older than I am (at the moment, to do anything would be illegal - but that's not the point) and he ways holds me, makes me feel safe, loved... like I can actually be someone (no one has ever been able to do this before). He says he sees me like his little sister though... the way we act together though isn't like that at all though. We've fallen asleep in each other's arms, cuddled, play fought ect. Sometimes I wonder if he feels the same way but I highly doubt it. I can never tell him, if I do, things will change and I'd prefer just to not say anything and just keep it the way it is.
I just... I'm confused. The logical part of me is saying 'You probably just like him because he's more mature than any of the guys your age' but every other part is saying 'But no one else has ever made you feel this way. No one else has constantly been on your mind or made you worry for them the way he has. You've never trusted anyone as much as you trust him.'
He always texts or calls me, wants to make me laugh, comes over if I'm depressed and cheers me up.
Our type of relationship is unlike most I think, we're best friends, like siblings, very protective about each other and yet it's more than any of those things. Even he admits it.
- Meg

Hi Meg =]

This is actually very beautiful. I’m glad that you found something like that because it’s a wonderful feeling to have. Of course, it is natural to feel very confused at the moment. I think your major concern here is how he feels. You’re keeping the way you feel, all of your emotions, inside. You’re restraining yourself and that can be really difficult to do especially when you feel so much for one person.

I think you should just tell him how you feel. You can’t tell him halfheartedly though and by that I mean, you can’t just say, “I like you” and be done with it. I think you should tell him exactly how he makes you feel and that you think that the relationship between the two of you is different from anything you’ve ever had and you want that. Just remember to let him know how difficult it was for you to confess how you feel…that confessing this is really important to you because he means a lot to you.

It seems to me that he’s also giving you a lot of signals in return but it’s better to clarify. Let him know that you’re confused by that and you want to know how he feels.

I know that it all seems like a lot to say and that it can be frightening to do. You don’t want to lose that special relationship that the two of you have. Let him know that too.

He obviously cares a lot about you…even as a friend so I’m sure that he won’t just drop you if you let him know how you feel. He’s protective of you, he doesn’t want to see you hurt. I really think that he’ll understand.

You must remember though that this advice is coming from a stranger that’s never met the two of you so in the end it’s your call. In the end it’s your heart that has to decide what you really want to do.

If you want, you can let me know what you decide and if everything turned out alright.

Sarah <3

Posted 10 months ago

Asked by Anonymous Anonymous

hi :) .. i'm marie..
so, look... my closest friend (C) once presented me (??) a group of people, with the time, we started getting closer .. and be like kinda close friends.. all of us.
so, i had another friend (J) and she had no clue about them (the group) ..
so once, my mom told me why would't i present J the group of friends (i hope you understand) so, honestly i didn't wanted... because i thought she will exclude me ...
C and i talked and decided to introduce J to them...
first i thought.. this is not bad at all... i didn't bother that..
but tonight.. i was talking to her on facebook, and i said who are you J.. or are you with anybody else... she said ''guess'' and i said '' you.. like you alone'' and she said ''nooo!! we are M, E, F and meee'' they are some of the people who were part of ''the group''...
so i was like... she is taking away mt friends.. why did i present them!!
i know it is so stupid.. but i really feel bad, because i think she is gonna be like .. a closer friend than i am to them! and i don't want that..
thank you...
ps. i admire you all of you... wow... you deserve all the best!
and whoever answer this, thank you

Hi Marie =]

You might feel like you’re losing your friend but this is an opportunity to make your friendship circle even bigger! If you feel like you’re losing J to this new group of friends then talk to her. Let her know that you feel that she’s leaving you behind for other people.

My friend went through a similar situation. She introduced two different people and at first she felt like they had become best friends and excluded her but in the end she was able to stay friends with both of them.

People grow up and people change. Friendships will break and new ones will grow in return. It’s just what life is. If you really don’t want to lose J then work to keep the friendship going and talk to her about how you feel.

I hope this helped.

Sarah <3

Posted 11 months ago